You are right. These are not the only qualities that women want in men. There has to be at least some sort of initial attraction, the social background of the guy has to be right for the woman (e.g., how homely he is, how co-operative, whether he mostly keeps his own brain locked up and go with the flow or thinks critically, how much his family would intrude into the woman's or couple's lives, and how much that guy is going to potentially depend on and use the woman, how is that guy going to react when the woman doesn't find the guy attractive anymore or doesn't want to have sex with him, how cheat-prone the guy is etc. etc. etc.)

But you are wrong to assume even a decent percentage of women have some potential men in their friend circle and they are ignoring them. There's a very large gap between women's wants and guys' supply.

Lastly, you might know I think it's good to push for a matrilocal and matrilineal society. In fact that's the only way for a viable and peaceful society. Such a societal structure existed 10,000 years ago for millions of years, but mostly it was an uninformed practice, it was just a natural system, but then a rather informed but harmful system came in, patriarchy, hand-held by capitalism and religious politics. But this time, if we understand the benefit of matrilocality and matriliny and push for an informed and conscious change and can maintain it, that would solve this demand and supply problem too. Women will be more empowered and more open to demand what they really want, and men will have chances to fulfil it and have a relationship based on mutual agreement and respect, instead of extortion, threat, violence, manipulation and coercion.