Yes, I guess, this is the only way to get through in a patriarchal culture. While most don't understand or value the demand of humanity from men, many of them surely understand the language of shame, like, "are you even a man if you are restricting or using your own woman?" etc. better. But it would have been nicer if we had a matriarchal value system, the way you described in these article of yours:

https://medium.com/inside-of-elle-beau/rape-is-unknown-in-some-cultures-7c8629c4fa0f

https://medium.com/inside-of-elle-beau/egalitarian-cultures-arent-utopian-ee32cf7ac440