M
3 min readOct 17, 2023

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Yes. I agree with this. 100%. I just observe the men and boys of various ages in my office and think how unhappy would be the women with them. They land in office at around 10, and stay till 8:30, 9:00, 9:30... and there's one hour of commutes before and after that, plus it takes time to get ready, and after going back home, they have no time left for family after dinner. This work culture is horrible.
But instead of voicing for a change in this toxic and dooming culture, these men just brag about their long office hours (although much of their time in office is spent in idle conversations, taking a stroll or playing games, and yes of course, in bitching, but still they wouldn't just finish up early and go home), talk about how their partners and kids are "demanding" of their time and presence (I never understand, why THEY want to have it all though, emotionally blackamailing partners to stay with them even if they are unhappy with their life practices, not staying involved in their kids' lives and then trying to bribe them with expensive gifts), bully and bitch about the women (or, rarely, the men whose priorities are at the right place) who try to maintain a work-life balance, and goes home early (although we log back in at home). They talk about how women are becoming "masculine" and trying to "have it all", how women are avoiding both office and their home and family by sticking to the jobs (not even career, because well, career women are " born to be single and childless and unhappy"), how women are becoming more and more picky about their guys and preferring the guys who prioritizes the home and the kids (and their favorite phrase is that women want both money and time from a guy, when literally we are just screaming to the males in our lives to not run so much after money, and fame and instead attend to the home and the kids), how women are forsaking their household and care "duties" and demanding that the men in their lives do their fair share od these "emasculating things", and things that apparently "men are not good at", how women are taking it too far by demanding the work from home facilities (still left as an after-effect of Covid) stay in place and grow reasonably (hell, dudes are even concerned about the billionaire office space owners and what will happen to their business if these work from home continue). And many of the young and unmarried women are also not much far behind from criticizing the people maintaining work life balance too, just today, one of my unmarried young and overworking female colleague was trying to bitch about the one and only senior female colleague of us, how she comes to office early but leaves early, and attend rest of the meetings from home. I told her if you also have a kid, you will understand. She said that her personal preference now is coming to office at our usual time (2-3 hours late than that senior woman) and stay till late evening. I don't even know why she expects every woman to go by Her personal preference and if the women are executing their work just fine working flexible hours, then what is the problem ( one guy from office, of our age only, was giving a general feedback after a work-life-balance session that he thinks the woman presenter who works flexible hours is much less productive and valuable to the company than the workaholic guy presenter, although the woman was managing a bigger and more complex portfolio with one of the highest ROI. It still seemed unfair to him).
So movies like this and reviews like these are really the need of the hour and need much much bigger and better publicity, discussion, debate and understanding.

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M
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Not the initial for Man/Male. After all, this letter is not only reserved for that. It's the initial of my name, and I am a woman.

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