Would like to comment on this one. So I am one such woman, who is not conventionally attractive. Now, although I feel more comfortable not judging people or myself by the look (now, I honestly don't know if me not being conventionally beautiful hideously contribute to this belief of mine, but I can confirm, even if sometime it does to some extent, I really don't believe in comparing people by their external features), and am really comfortable in my skin and like that part of me (so much so that I take backhanded minor insults in a stoic face really well, I even sigh internally seeing the commenter's foolishness), still sometimes rarely when I find myself in a party or something with all the men and women (mind you, I write when everyone is well-clad, not just the women) well-clad, well-polished and I standing there like the odd one out, and someone regardless their gender, compliments me out of half-kindness and half-patronization, I do appreciate that.

But, in all the other scenarios, in daily lives, if I can sense patronization inside a compliment, I find it kind of sad and insulting. Sad because I can sense the fakeness, and insulting because I am not just my outer look, and by patronizing me they were kind of confirming the existing bias that my look is the only thing or the first and foremost thing that I should be good at.