What can I say if you think I am hating/attacking you when I'm trying to have a discussion/argument with you. And opposite of taking is not always giving. Stop taking/ stop expecting society and culture dictated favors is also an opposite act of taking, and that is what is called decent. So no, to be decent, you don't always have to put your entire energy on thinking or acting on giving, just stop having any gendered expectation is fine.