M
3 min readDec 6, 2023

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Thank you so much for writing this. This trend is absolutely terrifying, and there's almost nothing left in the name of choice. I don't shave my body hair, because I was not taught to doll myself up for other people's pleasure, and often perverted sexual pleasure and downright objectification. 
 Or was not taught any pseudoscience about how shaving body hair is essential for hygiene (people who say that (and a lot of people say that, most people are absolutely nazi about body hair and think if you don't shave, you are unhygenic and lazy), and people who accept those thoughts are hilarious, can't they see the men walking around them with body hair? If they are perfectly hygenic, how do only women become unhygienic?). So I didn't really notice if people around me shaved or not until I was about to come to a big city for my first job. My best friend told me that if we don't shave or wax, it might so happen that we won't be taken seriously or might be considered in a begrudging way (the cancerous feminists that is). Her mom teenagers have taught her to always at least shave her armpits since her early teenage. She is a nurse, a really knowledgeable one. It's sad to think that she also would in front of peer pressure and expectation and thought it was far less of a problem if she just would, it would be painful, most probably at least harmful, time and energy-consuming and very costly, but at least people will stop shaming, mocking, attacking or looking funny around her. She started waxing her limbs. I still don't, but the mocking and bashing is sometimes too much, and this is while I'm living among people who are considered as one of the most liberal bunches in society. Sometimes I also think, should I just start shaving? But it feels very unnatural to me, and I don't want to give in under dumb expectations. An older guy serving food in our cafeteria once called me aunty. I thought it was a real funny joke. My manager once asked me if he was right-thinking that I don't plan to get married. People sometimes look weirdly at me, even I myself am now conscious of my legs. I never wear anything exposing my legs, I feel people will just burn me with their bare eyes, I will also feel really, really self-conscious. It's really strange to think all these fuss are about such a thing about our body which is both natural and insignificant. But that's the double standard and misogyny. Men are roaming streets wearing boxers, exposing their hairy legs and nobody bats an eye, yet, women are cornered so much if they dare to do such a trivial thing. People say such women don't look presentable, but women are humans, not someone's present, women don't exist to be pleasing to others' eyes, women are autonomous human beings. If we agree with this weird logic, we can then apply the same on men too, to many women, hairless men are the only attractive ones, I even doubt that one of the reason behind some women loving the gym guys and guys from sports are that they often shave body hair. Some women likes hairy guys. So, should I say, we should take a consensus about women's likes about the body hair of men, then impose the choice of the majority on men? Or, is it okay to say that men should keep their body hair just the way their girlfriends or wives like? Does that sound okay? Then why dictating women's life choices seem okay to so many people?

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M
M

Written by M

Not the initial for Man/Male. After all, this letter is not only reserved for that. It's the initial of my name, and I am a woman.

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