See, the thing is, all the popular cultures have their positive and negative aspects. South-east asian societies put too much importance on arranged marriages, that too inside their own religion, caste and class. That obviously as an exclusionary system is bad, really bad. Your mom was just lucky, my mom was not. So we shouldn't generalize. On the other hand, western popular culture is too obsessed with running away from anything family-centric, a date arranged by family, or, living with parents after becoming adults etc., that is also not very wise. But advising grown up children to live with their parents like our cultures, which in turn means that the women must live with their parent-in-laws is no way a solution, it's an oppression.
Yes, violence against women due to patriarchal mindset is rampant in every culture. But please acknowledge that the western society doesn't have such a huge honor killing problem. However, it has a hypersexualized culture, which results into many teenage girls not understanding the dating game yet, and the risks associated with it, but still pushed into the date pool due to peer pressure, resulting into many harmful things on them, like rape, teenage pregnancy etc. But, let's admit our traditional culture also have a huge nonconsensual rape problem, inside the family and friends circle, and teenage pregancy resulting into hush-hush abortion. In all the cultures, the liability of guarding their virginities are put on women, which actually should be put on men, men should be held responsible for these, but we don't do that. Instead in traditional cultures, we sometimes get the girl married to her rapists. No culture is better than the other in this.