My father's negative behavior motivated me to succeed too. I was 14 years old and loved him so very much (I still love him, but also hate him for how he treated and thinks about my mom), but he started such a damn problem in our family, all fueled by his damn insecurity and stupidity (yes, I would call the man who could not understand my mother in even 17 years, a damn stupid man) and by external instigation. And it didn't ever stop, I swore to take myself and my mom out of that situation as soon as I can, and did the only thing I could, I studied so very hard and my mom stood behind me. I got into one of the most prestigious university in my country, after 5 years, I got a job, I took my mom away. But my mom could not forsake my father, because of two reasons: he is so freaking dependent on her for his survival and well-being, if she ever leaves him, people will eat him alive. And also, even if he was self-dependent, people would attack us too, attack mom for leaving him and attack me for my "broken" family. So, he still is with us, just away in his own damn pursuit most of the times, and we are so freaking happy.