M
2 min readNov 8, 2023

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Many times when the husband or his family make the woman go through an abortion without a care of what her opinion on her own body, her own life and her own future is, then that is okay with these people. Because that's the family's (patriarchal) decision, that's the breadwinners' decision. And sometimes I saw some naive and hurt girls support anti-choice because of this very same thing happening to them in the past, their father or boyfriend or husband forced them go through abortion and by banning this basic human rights from all the women they expect that no woman would go through an abortion against their will again. And the anti-abortionist conspirators use these women's emotion very aptly, never letting them think and understand that this ban means the women who want to abort, won't have the choice, or, would have to go through very dangerous process and would even face criminal charges. But there will always be people who would successfully force a woman go through it if it's against the woman's will. This is not banning those people. Just endangering the women and messing up women's lives even more.

And then there are numerous people who think very unscientifically/ in a cultish manner. Their thought is God created this life (and not the sexual intercourse, or at times rape), hence women have no right to "end the human life inside them" (even if the women are humans too, and as a living, breathing human, and as the foetus is inside the women's body and not vice-versa, women's rights on their body is the only right in these cases). Even if that means the women's lives will be in danger during the pregnancy or the delivery, their lives would completely change and oftentimes the child won't have the necessary resources and safety and protection net to grow up as a free healthy human being. Women exercising their autonomy and rights on their own bodies is "child murder" to them. But they hoarding the resources of lives, they making policy and running a patriarchal biased system causing actual infanticide, child labor, malnourishment, forced marriage, huge difference of lifestyle between the rich and the poor kids of the society is not.

They would say why the woman didn't think about this possibility of pregnancy from beforehand? Why didn't she "keep her legs closed" or used protection? To these people, rape is a myth, coercion and manipulation is myth, failure of protection or many men's unwillingness to use protection is unheard of too. And these people think they are the moral police and judge assigned by their God to pass moral judgement and actual judgement on people's lives. They should get to control how others live.

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M
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Written by M

Not the initial for Man/Male. After all, this letter is not only reserved for that. It's the initial of my name, and I am a woman.

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