I'd rather be called shallow by shallow people instead of being shallow and overlooking all the distasteful red flags in a person. After all, what will I do in such a relationship? Shut my thoughts down because of what? He criticizes the rape victims, he called the women he slept with sluts, characterless, he calls a woman lier at the hint of her accusing a guy of harassinh her, but he is nice to me? So, is he nice because he is actually nice? No, from his belief system, it doesn't look like that at all. Then he is nice to continue the relationship, to show me as a trophy to others, specially to the ones who call him a bad guy, to keep his access to my pants intact. I'll truly feel shallow if I continue relationship with such a guy.