M
2 min readOct 10, 2023

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I was sexually assaulted by a cousin when I was 3-4 and he was 14-15. I have no proof, most of the sexual assault or rape victims don't. I didn't tell this to anyone in my life expect for my mom and my best friend, and there's no way to prove his crime if I ever bring myself to accuse him. So, it's really difficult to prove that an accusation like this is right or wrong. If I now go and accuse him, it's me who will be called a man-hating bitch ruining a guy's life, if they can't prove my accusation, I would be called a liar by the common people. But that's completely wrong. Many surveys take place everywhere where people equate unproven accusations as false ones, or withdrawn accusations as false. But given that most of the cases in my country (India, and that's true for everywhere else too) most of the sexual assaults and rapes are not even reported, most of the reported ones are withdrawn because the accuser woman and their family are either monetarily "compensated", manipulated or threatened, most of the cases continued are never brought before the courts, most of the cases which are trialed, result into neither proved nor unproved; the " false accusation" statistics is really rigged.

But that doesn't mean any innocent but accused man should be punished. And so given all these, I really think that the only way is separate men and women to two half globes (instead of limiting women to the tiny insides of the houses and letting men roam freely to the vast vast world, but not keeping the outside safe for women) or, establishing parks and buildings (resorts, hotels etc.) and restrict all the flirtatious or sexual activities inside those only, if people want to be intimate, they should go there and do their things, including married people or people in relationships. And those facilities should be nunerous in numbers and also heavily monitored for potential unconsensual behaviors, without compromising the users' privacy of course. But every such activity outside those facilities would be conaidered as potential sexual assault/rape.

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M
M

Written by M

Not the initial for Man/Male. After all, this letter is not only reserved for that. It's the initial of my name, and I am a woman.

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