I am from a very traditional and religious background too. In my childhood I was brainwashed to believe girls always like and support their fathers over their mothers, and people very casually asked me questions like who among your parents you love the most, I obviously told it's my dad. People praised me for it. I didn't then start think on my own and whenever there was a fight between my mom and dad, I used to gang up with all the awful relatives of mine and blame and mock my mom, blamed her for fighting with dad for "no reason". Later when I grew up, I saw those fights were because my dad was idling away his whole time, without doing any work at all, neither earning money, nor looking after the household (not that this second option was even thinkable to my parents back then, men as per the trad gender roles, don't perform household work), he threw away his job out of a fit of rage and was not planning for the future. My mom used to look after the household and teach children to earn money all at the same time, without much support, and we were very poor. So the first fight as I remember now was because mom was trying to convince my dad to buy 2 parental insurances for my future, and he was shouting, then crying because he was afraid we don't have the money for the premium. Later mom won, luckily, and surprisingly we didn't face any problem paying the premium. Just few years back the insurance matured, I got a job already, so me and my mom don't need that money now, but my dad is very happy with the amount in his bank account, we are also happy now he doesn't always go crazy on mom because apprently he got the right to do so as a man with financial problem.

In my teenage, I still loved and adored my dad very much ( I still do love him, but am happy as long he stays away from us as much as possible, we are too weak to bear the environment he creates in the house). But when I was around 14, he did something that made me wish him dead, literally dead (and yes, I hated all men back them, because I was trapped in that toxic atmosphere, with no escape), and that stayed with me for the next 5 years till I left house for college (and didn't want to go back ever again). He was so insecure, so wired up in the toxic gender-role based masculinity sh*t widespread around us, that he called my mom a "whor*" because one of his unmarried friend (then our neighbor too) told him that he was so lucky to get a supportive wife like my mom and he too wants such a wife. He got so filthy in his mind that he asked me to spy over my mom, and I really don't know what turned inside me just then, that I asked my mom to get a divorce ( in our society, divorces are almost non-existent, divorced women are outcast and not even supported by their families, so mom obviously was not thinking of getting one). He would curse unspeakable words everyday, and shout and shame my mom. She is a proud woman, and very conservative too (I later told her that she should have just go with an affair as we tolerated all those things in our lives, with she doing nothing, and ran away seeing her facial expression), she didn't tolerate the insults quietly and fought back, sometimes she would try to physically fight my dad, she slapped him once and he pushed her down on the ground, many times tried to choke her, it was a mess (From watching the Depp and Heard trial, I got the same vibe. It was a toxic relationship and I won't support a rich and most probably spoiled brat like Heard, who most probably had an escape open for her, but I can see how she was blamed unfairly by the whole world for being abusive to a person who himself was abusive).
I saw that mess for 4 years. Maybe mom could get a divorce, but her family heavily criticized her just hearing about she considered it, and she is too much of a self-sacrificial woman, who would like to die babysit her ill-tempered husband, even if he treats her like a dumping ground of his anger, frustration and insecurity. The thing really effed me up, whenever I was in school, or, somewhere else, I would worry about what was happening at home. We even changed places hoping his craziness would end, but it didn't. Even now, such abusive behaviors from my dad is not too rare, he now blames my mom for spendinb her own money on her own parents, and comes home to rob her of some money and peace whenever he is in short of those things. Whenever he is visiting and I am outside home, I worry for my mom.
He is not a bad man, he is just not qualified to be a husband/partner for my mom. And he is very superstitious, lazy and coward.

Most people don't understand the sanity in divorce and separation, most people treat misogyny and domestic violences like normal things. Most people aren't even ready to hear about the problems in such things without getting agitated, confronting and abusive. And too many young girls and women, including many of my friends show the same behavior towards their moms and dads just like me in my childhood and early teenage years. Too many of them think nonconsensual porn-type things are completely normal in a sexual relationship, too many of them think "Fifty shades of Grey" is the epitome of a sexually tensed and satisfying relationship, too many of them never even heard about self-satisfaction, are scared of sex but willing to do it to "save a relationship", find no problem when boys talk misogynistic things very casually and thinks of it as just stupid and harmless, and too many of them are willing to get a rich husband but also hope to keep their happiness and freedom intact. I am just sad that many of them would get hurt in their lives by the culture of misogyny and hate, and wouldn't have much of an escape from that. That is why, even at the risk of being called the horrible thing, i.e. a "man-hating feminist", sometimes I try to " brainwash" them with my idea of feminism and why we need to know things.
(Also, to the writer, sorry for writing this long and tough life-story here. I just got the inspiration from your article and thought of writing it down here, but this is most probably trauma-dumping, so sorry for that, please feel free to completely ignore it. Really thanks for the article.)