Hey, I really advise all women to ask a man this before getting into any kind of relationship or situation-ship with him: how frequent and what kind of sexual intercourse he wants and whether he believes in mutual consent, just always.

Because I am seeing some weird-ass comments from many men and I am afraid about me and you, women. Many men seem to believe there’s no rape in a relationship, and also that, if a woman wears something the men think are suggestive, or, if women roam in places again men think are hinting towards their willingness to get “railed”, women should be raped, and that’s not a crime. And, also many men I see believe, their partners should be always ready to provide them sex and that’s just normal. That women who don’t provide them sex at demand deprive them and that’s a crime on the part of the women. That if women don’t provide sufficient sex, they will use force and coercion and that’s completely normal and women deserve such treatment. That if they are paying for a woman’s food, basic expenses, and buying her expensive things and services, that obliges the woman to sleep with the men, on their demand.

But the most dangerous thought common to each of these men is that they think there’s no need to let women know about these thoughts of theirs, and just assume women also know and agree to all of these, and hence the men are justified to proceed based on these thoughts of theirs. I’ll shortly write about the comments I saw recently in various social media which compelled me to write this. I saw such comments previously too, from many people, but then I thought this is some rape-y bs by some outlier anti-humans. But now I am noticing him-pathy of other guys for the guys who were rightfully bashed by some people for mentioning how men don’t get sufficient sex or how women wearing “suggestive” or different clothes invite sexual assault and rape etc. under articles and videos talking about the rape problem in various countries. This guys seem to genuinely believe that women not having sex with them at their demand, and “giving them blue balls” is a crime against men and they are writing things like how unfair the people are for bashing such pathetic comments when “all the commenters” did was point out genuine problems. But these same guys will never create their separate platform and fight the right battle talking about how the culture of sexual suppression, abortion and contraception ban, criminalization of sex-work, tabooing sex and sex-work and not legalizing and regulating sex-work industry in a way that protects and benefits the sex-workers are the actual culprits behind their problems of “blue balls”, I don’t feel these guys even think so deeply, or, believe in honest and right things like this. They are just like: I want some, right now, give me, I’ll take it if you don’t, and it’s my right to take, because I feel like having it. They are dangerous. And we should talk about them and the society that creates and nurtures such inhumane guys. I’ll make a part 2 shortly with actual comments I saw recently.