Ha... it's no more was about getting you, it was his spite. My youngest aunt left her ex-boyfriend when I was in high school, and that guy, that very guy who I thought was sweet as he lent me a very old but very good dictionary of his once when he was in a relationship with my aunt, had the audacity to come to my mother (she is the oldest sister, and a mother figure to the aunt) and say that her sister was a whore and he is happy that she is going awry, because it's not his goods anymore. What was he talking about? Well, apart from the thing that she dumped his ass, she once went and tried vaping (she was really critical about the girls who smoke, probably affected by that guy's notion only, but I guess, she still was curious to try things out). And, she went for a movie/tele-soap audition (she was then trying out various career options). My mom showed that guy out immediately. But yeah, this is the reality. Most guys are brought up like this only. They don't actually fully mean the sweet and compassionate things they do in a relationship, to then that's just a transaction.